If they don’t change, be the change

If they don’t change, be the change

Building strong and healthy relationships is an essential part of life, whether they are romantic or platonic.

Humans are creatures of habit, and change is not always easy for us. Some people believe that people can change, but there are others who firmly believe that people never truly change. When it comes to dealing with people who continually hurt us, no matter how much we try to help or change them, it can be frustrating and heartbreaking. It is important to recognize that some people will never appreciate us, no matter how much we try to do for them.

It is important to remember that our own happiness and well-being are our top priorities. If someone is continually causing us pain, we must take steps to protect ourselves. This may involve setting boundaries, limiting contact, or cutting ties altogether. While it may be difficult to let go of someone we care about, it is essential to prioritize our own emotional and mental health.

It is also crucial to acknowledge that some people are simply toxic and will never appreciate us, no matter how much we try to help or support them. These individuals may be selfish, narcissistic, or manipulative. They may take advantage of our kindness and generosity, leaving us feeling used and drained. It is essential to recognize these behaviors and take action to protect ourselves from further harm.

Some people may not intentionally hurt us, nor do they want to be unappreciative, but they simply lack the emotional intelligence to express gratitude and appreciation appropriately. These individuals may have grown up in an environment where expressing emotions was discouraged or seen as a weakness, or they may have never learned how to appropriately express gratitude and appreciation.

It is important to set boundaries and communicate our needs and expectations clearly. If someone repeatedly crosses these boundaries and shows no effort to change, it may be time to let go of the relationship. This decision should not be made lightly, and it is essential to take time to reflect on the situation and our own feelings.

Ultimately, the decision to let go of a toxic relationship is a personal one. It is important to trust our instincts, prioritize our own well-being, and take steps to protect our emotional and mental health. By doing so, we can create healthier, happier relationships and live more fulfilling lives. Remember, sometimes saying goodbye is the best thing we can do for ourselves and for the other person, regardless of the type of relationship we have with them.